Today I discovered that 40% of men have asked their partners to change their pubic hair - and for a moment, I was outraged.How dare they tell a woman what to do with their body, I seethed. How can men do nothing but trim their pubes, yet expect women to be perfectly waxed and buffed? Why do people visit a dominatrix?
These men explain the appealThen I became Dresses conflicted.We'd never tell someone off for having a sexual preference, or a particular hairstyle they find more attractive.If someone said they like blue eyes or brown hair, we might say they're a little superficial. But it'd be unlikely we'd have the same Josephine & Co light grey Blazer EDDO rage reserved for those who declare that they prefer a woman with a clean shaven undercarriage.Perhaps that's because of the connotations of being hair-free - a rejection of adult womanhood, a hatred of something that's entirely natural, and a preference for porn-ready Barbie dolls.Or perhaps it becomes an issue when men expect women to meet their pubic hair preferences, and would either actually ask their partner to change something or would stop dating them as a result.It's tricky, because we should all be free to discuss our sexual preferences, and to choose not to remain in a relationship if our sexual needs aren't Ted Baker mid orange Jumper dress ZARALIE met (and if that outweighs all the other stuff in a partnership), but at the same time, asking someone to change their body to fit your preferences feels unacceptable.
Having a preference is fine, essentially. But believing that pubic hair is inherently 'wrong', 'dirty', or 'gross' isn't. Because it's not - and it's there for a reason.So if your sex life would be better and you'd be happier if your partner had different pubic hair, sure, go ahead and gently ask.But you need to make sure you're asking without criticising or making your partner feel self-conscious for something entirely natural - and remember that if they refuse, that's entirely their choice.